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How to help--and cope with--the difficult child

Expanded and completely revised, the classic and definitive work on parenting hard-to-raise children with new sections on ADHD and the latest medications for childhood disorders.

Temperamentally difficult children can confuse and upset even experienced parents and teachers. They often act defiant, stubborn, loud, aggressive, or hyperactive. They can also be clingy, shy, whiny, picky, and impossible at bedtime, mealtimes, and in public places. This landmark book has been completely revised to include the latest information on ADHD, medications, and a reassuring approach  to all aspects of childhood behavioral disorders.

In this parenting classic, Dr. Stanley Turecki, one of the nation''s most respected experts on children and discipline--and himself the father of a once difficult child--offers compassionate and practical advice to parents of hard-to-raise children. Based on his experience with thousands of families in the highly successful Difficult Children Program he developed for Beth Israel Medical Center in New York City, his step-by-step approach shows you how to:

Identify your child''s temperament using a ten-point test to pinpoint specific difficulties
Manage common--often "uncontrollable"--conflict situations expertly and gently
Make discipline more effective and get better results with less punishment
Get support from schools, doctors, professionals, and support groups
Understand ADHD and other common diagnoses, and decide if medication is right for your child
Make the most of the tremendous potential and creativity that many "difficult" children have




Drawing on his experience with thousands of families in his highly successful Difficult Child Program, Dr. Turecki shows parents how to:

Identify their child''s difficult temperament using a ten-point test to pinpoint specific difficulties

Manage typical conflict situations expertly and kindly

Make discipline more effective and get better results with less punishment

Get support from schools, doctors, and others

Understand ADHD and other common diagnoses, and decide whether medication is right for their child

Make the most of the child''s creativity and potential -->

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PRAISE FROM PARENTS:

"Dr. Turecki''s understanding and knowledge of children with difficult temperaments is astounding."

"The Difficult Child Program taught me to be a better parent to my difficult child and also made me a better parent for my ''easy'' child."

"Dr. Turecki''s program has taught me the real meaning of motherhood."

PRAISE FROM PROFESSIONALS:

"This book is great! The approach to discipline is one of the best I have seen. It is a real contribution to parents."
--T. Berry Brazelton, M.D.

"A clear and lucid prescription of how to deal with a difficult child. The compassionate understanding of the author is evident throughout."
--Irving Phillips, M.D., Past President, American Academy of Child Psychiatry

"A cornucopia of good ideas for assessing and intervening in these often disastrous relationship patterns."
--Donald A. Block, M.D., Past President, The American Family Therapy Academy

"A unique and extremely valuable book. I can recommend it enthusiastically."
--William B. Carey, M.D., Director of Behavioral Pediatrics, Children''s Hospital of Philadelphia; author of Understanding Your Child''s Temperament

"This volume will sit on my shelf between Spock and Gesell."
--Richard L. Saphir, M.D., Clinical Professor of Pediatrics, The Mount Sinai School of Medicine

"Virtually every teacher has taught a child who is ''difficult'' to handle. This book is invaluable in helping teachers and parents understand the roots of this behavior and thus, helping them cope more effectively."
--Ellen Galinsky, co-author of The Preschool Years, President, The National Association for the Education of Young Children

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How to help--and cope with--the difficult child
Expanded and completely revised, the classic and definitive work on parenting hard-to-raise children with new sections on ADHD and the latest medications for childhood disorders.
Temperamentally difficult children can confuse and upset even experienced parents and teachers. They often act defiant, stubborn, loud, aggressive, or hyperactive. They can also be clingy, shy, whiny, picky, and impossible at bedtime, mealtimes, and in public places. This landmark book has been completely revised to include the latest information on ADHD, medications, and a reassuring approach to all aspects of childhood behavioral disorders.
In this parenting classic, Dr. Stanley Turecki, one of the nation''s most respected experts on children and discipline--and himself the father of a once difficult child--offers compassionate and practical advice to parents of hard-to-raise children. Based on his experience with thousands of families in the highly successful Difficult Children Program he developed for Beth Israel Medical Center in New York City, his step-by-step approach shows you how to:
Identify your child''s temperament using a ten-point test to pinpoint specific difficulties
Manage common--often "uncontrollable"--conflict situations expertly and gently
Make discipline more effective and get better results with less punishment
Get support from schools, doctors, professionals, and support groups
Understand ADHD and other common diagnoses, and decide if medication is right for your child
Make the most of the tremendous potential and creativity that many "difficult" children have


Drawing on his experience withthousands of families in his highly successful Difficult Child Program, Dr. Turecki shows parents how to:
Identify their child''s difficult temperament using a ten-point test to pinpoint specific difficulties
Manage typical conflict situations expertly and kindly
Make discipline more effective and get better results with less punishment
Get support from schools, doctors, and others
Understand ADHD and other common diagnoses, and decide whether medication is right for their child
Make the most of the child''s creativity and potential -->

From the Back Cover

Temperamentally difficult children confuse and upset even experienced parents and teachers. They are often demanding, defiant, stubborn, loud, impulsive, or wild. Some can be clingy, shy, negative, whiny, and picky. Most are impossible at bedtime, mealtimes, or in public places. Tantrums, even "meltdowns", are common. But even the worst behavior may not be your child''s fault -- or yours, either!

HOW TO HELP -- AND COPE WITH -- THE DIFFICULT CHILD

Dr. Stanley Turecki, one of the nation''s most respected experts on children and discipline -- and himself the father of a once difficult child -- offers compassionate and practical advice to parents of hard-to-raise children. Based on his experience with thousands of families, his step-by-step approach shows you how to:

Identify your child''s temperament, using a ten-point checklist to pinpoint specific difficulties
-- Manage typical conflicts expertly -- with kindness and firmness
-- Make discipline more effective, so you punish much less
-- Get support from schools, doctors, and other parents
-- Understand ADHD, ADD, and other diagnoses, and decide if medication is right for your child
-- Accept and respect your child as an individual
-- Make the most of the creativity and positive potential of your difficult child

About the Author

Stanley Turecki, M.D., is a child and family psychiatrist and the father of a once difficult child.  He is a diplomate of the American Board of Psychiatry and Neurology, holds appointments at two New York hospitals, and is the physician-in-charge of the Difficult Child Center in New York City.  

Leslie Tonner is the author of two previous works of non-fiction and four novels.

Excerpt. © Reprinted by permission. All rights reserved.

Do You Have a Difficult Child?

FAMILY QUESTIONS:
ANSWER "YES" OR "NO"


1. Do you find your child hard to raise?

2. Do you find the child''s behavior hard to understand?

3. Are you often battling the child?

4. Do you feel inadequate or guilty as a parent?

5. Is your marriage or family life being affected by the child?

CHILD QUESTIONS

The headings below identify possibly difficult areas of your child''s temperament (his or her innate makeup). Rate your child, in an overall way, on each item, using this scale:

0 = No problem (never present or just a little)
1 = Moderate problem (sometimes present)
2 = Definite problem (often present)
3 = Extreme problem (nearly always or always)

HIGH ACTIVITY LEVEL: Restless, squirmy, fidgety; always into things, "hyper," makes you tired; "ran before he walked"; easily overstimulated; trouble sitting still or playing quietly; "motormouth"; hates to be confined; easily gets wild or "revved up."

IMPULSIVITY: Acts without thinking; quick hot temper, easily frustrated; impatient, excitable; interrupts, calls out, doesn''t await turn; grabs or pushes; can lose control and become aggressive; can suddenly take off.

DISTRACTIBILITY: Has problems focusing and paying attention, especially if not really interested; trouble following instructions; doesn''t "listen," tunes you out, daydreams; disorganized, forgetful.

HIGH INTENSITY: Loud voice; forceful, overwhelming; strong emotions whether miserable, angry, or happy.

IRREGULARITY: Unpredictable body rhythms; can''t tell when he''ll be hungry or tired, resulting in conflicts over meals and bedtime; wakes up at night; erratic toilet habits.

NEGATIVE PERSISTENCE: Very strong-willed, stubborn; goes on and on nagging, whining, or negotiating if wants something; relentless, won''t give up, wears you down; gets "locked in"; may have long tantrums.

LOW SENSORY THRESHOLD: Physically, not emotionally sensitive; highly aware of color, light, appearance, texture, sound, smell, taste, or temperature (not necessarily all of these); "creative," but with strong and sometimes unusual preferences that can be embarrassing; bothered by bright lights and loud noises; particular, picky; clothes have to feel or look right; doesn''t like the way many foods look, smell, or taste; feels too cold (or too hot) when no one else does.

INITIAL WITHDRAWAL: Shy and reserved with new adults and/or children; doesn''t like new situations and unfamiliar settings; holds back or protests by crying, clinging, or tantruming if forced to go forward.

POOR ADAPTABILITY: Has trouble with transition and change of activity or routine; inflexible, notices minor details; gets used to things and won''t give them up; can want the same clothes or foods over and over; "creature of habit"; even after initial response takes a long time to adapt.

NEGATIVE MOOD: Serious or cranky, doesn''t show pleasure openly; not a "sunny" disposition.

WHAT YOUR RATING MEANS

FAMILY "YES"     CHILD               CONCLUSION

0-1          + 4-7 points          = Some difficult features

2-3          + 8-14 points         = Difficult child

4-5          + 15 or more points   = Very difficult child

If you recognize your child in this questionnaire, or suspect for other reasons that your child is indeed "difficult", then you need to know these basic facts:

Difficult children are normal. They are not emotionally disturbed, mentally ill, or brain damaged. Well-meaning relatives or other parents may have suggested that "something must be wrong with him." You may have worried a lot about this yourself. So let''s get a new perspective. "Difficult" is very different from "abnormal." In today''s climate, with ever-increasing numbers of children being "diagnosed," this is a very important distinction for parents to keep in mind.

Difficult children are like this because of their innate makeup. And that makeup is their inborn temperament. They are not like this because of something you as parents have done to them. It''s not your fault. And it''s not the child''s fault, either. He didn''t ask to be born difficult.

Difficult children are hard to raise. Of course, you know this already. But if you think of it as a basic fact of existence, it will help you cope better. This is the way your child is, but by understanding him better and learning about his temperament you will be able to manage him successfully. He will then be a great deal easier to raise.

Difficult children are not all the same. The picture differs depending on which areas of temperament come into play. Difficult children also range from the basically easy child with some difficult features, to the extreme of the very difficult, perhaps even impossible, child.

Difficult children make their parents feel angry, inadequate, or guilty. And these parental feelings can lead to one of the biggest problems with difficult children, a loss of parental authority. Parents feel their child no longer "listens" to them, that she is the one in control. Inconsistency and excessive punishment follow. "Nothing works" is the most common statement parents make about their efforts to discipline the child.

Difficult children can create marital strain, family discord, problems with siblings, and end up with emotional problems of their own

or

Difficult children can become positive, enthusiastic, perhaps even especially creative individuals if they are well managed when young. And teaching you how to do this is the goal of this book.

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galinalit
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This book was recommended to me by my child''s Pediatrician
Reviewed in the United States on January 23, 2017
I normally don''t take the time to write reviews, but had to come back and do it since I''m looking for more resources. This book was recommended to me by my child''s Pediatrician. It was a godsend! I am raising a strong willed child, and I did not realize that I was focusing... See more
I normally don''t take the time to write reviews, but had to come back and do it since I''m looking for more resources. This book was recommended to me by my child''s Pediatrician. It was a godsend! I am raising a strong willed child, and I did not realize that I was focusing on so many areas that didn''t matter (but I thought were important). The information in this book made clear sense, and I saw my own child in the examples. My life was a struggle every single day! I knew that I was going to have a struggle with my child, and I knew what the triggers were; I just didn''t know how to end them. My relationship with my child has improved so much, thanks to this book! It''s still not perfect, but at least we have dealt with the issues we were dealing with. And the thing that''s humbling and encouraging, is that I changed the way I behave/ respond, and my child''s behavior followed. I was not a bad parent, I just didn''t have the information I needed to guide my child toward better behavior.
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Denise Koster
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For parents of YOUNG difficult children (not me)
Reviewed in the United States on May 8, 2017
My difficult child is now 15. I think I read this book when he was a little child, as I do remember it, and it is definitely written for parents with small children. My biggest complaint is that over half the book is "war stories." Story after story about... See more
My difficult child is now 15. I think I read this book when he was a little child, as I do remember it, and it is definitely written for parents with small children. My biggest complaint is that over half the book is "war stories." Story after story about children who are difficult and how and what they did to get this distinction. I already know how kids can be difficult. I was looking for more concrete strategies in dealing with an older difficult child as well. This book would also be a good read for new elementary teachers or teachers in training. Also, BOTH parents need to buy into this strategy, or it won''t work.
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Kathryn
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Very helpful resource and guide to helping a difficult child to success
Reviewed in the United States on August 29, 2018
This book is a great resource for tools to use to help manage and improve a difficult child’s behavior. It is also helpful to know you are not alone in struggling with a difficult or manipulative child. I find myself more able to roll with the punches, laugh when I can, and... See more
This book is a great resource for tools to use to help manage and improve a difficult child’s behavior. It is also helpful to know you are not alone in struggling with a difficult or manipulative child. I find myself more able to roll with the punches, laugh when I can, and see the improvement that has come from the strategies offered. We are celebrating success more than suffering angst. Still some tough days, but a very helpful and positive resource!
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Deb R
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He now has a bit of a difficult daughter and I purchased this (again) to help them guide her in the best way.
Reviewed in the United States on June 13, 2018
My “difficult” son is now an accomplished engineer...this was on my night stand for years and referred to daily... surprise!!! He now has a bit of a difficult daughter and I purchased this (again) to help them guide her in the best way...don’t let the title put you... See more
My “difficult” son is now an accomplished engineer...this was on my night stand for years and referred to daily... surprise!!! He now has a bit of a difficult daughter and I purchased this (again) to help them guide her in the best way...don’t let the title put you off...it’s a beautiful way to raise a child to their potential
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Princess's Mom
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Appalling!
Reviewed in the United States on September 21, 2021
I thought this book was by another destructive Child Doctor, who wrote “The Strong Willed Child”. Either way, it’s appalling to try to crush a child that simply doesn’t see the world in the way you want them too. These strong willed difficult children are a gift, not... See more
I thought this book was by another destructive Child Doctor, who wrote “The Strong Willed Child”. Either way, it’s appalling to try to crush a child that simply doesn’t see the world in the way you want them too. These strong willed difficult children are a gift, not something to crush and destroy. The Parents are just selfish and lazy.
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JG
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Practical
Reviewed in the United States on October 22, 2018
I think this would be a good reference for parents struggling with toddlers, but it says nothing about kids older than 9. It was very much common sense and consistency, though he didn''t rule out learning disabilities and ADD/ADHD. I just didn''t find it that helpful for an... See more
I think this would be a good reference for parents struggling with toddlers, but it says nothing about kids older than 9. It was very much common sense and consistency, though he didn''t rule out learning disabilities and ADD/ADHD. I just didn''t find it that helpful for an older kid.
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Lee Anne Guryn
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How to really help your difficult child
Reviewed in the United States on December 21, 2010
The author knows the reality of a difficult child. He was a child psychiatrist with easy kids then his next child was a "difficult" child. He said he even skipped church due to the embarrassment of his daughter''s behavior. He really breaks down the differences between... See more
The author knows the reality of a difficult child. He was a child psychiatrist with easy kids then his next child was a "difficult" child. He said he even skipped church due to the embarrassment of his daughter''s behavior. He really breaks down the differences between behaviors and sensitivities. He helps to identify what CAN be changed and how to zero in on those behaviors so you can focus on them. He also teaches how to discover what are not really behavior issues (example in my own home, my child was really sensitive to textures so would have a tantrum when I put shirts with certain seaming styles, like a two tone sleeve with a seam on the upper arm). Very good book to have, I had for my own child and buy it over and over to give to young moms at the end of their ropes.
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Cybill
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Amazing book
Reviewed in the United States on December 28, 2019
Awesome book! A must read for parents who have a child or for teachers who work with children with difficult behaviors!
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Felicity Beverley
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Written in 1959’s type era
Reviewed in the United Kingdom on August 8, 2019
So old fashioned! But a few good tips
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E L DUNN
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well packaged and good book. Thanks
Reviewed in the United Kingdom on May 13, 2016
Arrived fairly quickly from america, well packaged and good book. Thanks
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Mrs BM
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Five Stars
Reviewed in the United Kingdom on April 5, 2015
Very helpful and informative.
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operafan
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5 stars for content but loses one for being outdated
Reviewed in Canada on August 8, 2020
Great book but I wish the author would update it. You''ll need to get past some of the outdated presentation and some of the advice. For example, the author is not against an occasional spanking but spanking has since proven to be ineffective or worse. And he talks mostly of...See more
Great book but I wish the author would update it. You''ll need to get past some of the outdated presentation and some of the advice. For example, the author is not against an occasional spanking but spanking has since proven to be ineffective or worse. And he talks mostly of mothers rather than parents. Having said that it is an amazing book. Really shows you how to understand your child. And how to prevent prevent prevent (his mantra is management not punishment). Our life is so much better. And when we''re having a bad day, I''m not as fazed by it. I just lay down the rules, follow through with the consequences as calmly as I can, and have confidence I''m doing the right thing. It sounds simple but takes practice and I never forget the fit part. We try as hard as we can to like our child and let it show and that alone helps immensely. For the record our child scored 14 on the quiz, just on the cusp between difficult and very difficult. He is the hyper, aggressive, stubborn and demanding type. Our days were disasters. Now I enjoy almost every day and there are stretches where you''d think he was model 3 year old. The days are still hard but much more positive. Know that you need to be with your child though and watch and be alert. I''ve put away any fantasies of getting things done around the house etc. until my husband gets home. I also use "Raising your spirited child" which is also fantastic but I think that one has more techniques for when they''re older and calmer and can communicate more complex ideas. I find this one (difficult child) works better for the aggression and destructiveness and the more frightening behaviour, and the other one (spirited child) for the regularity, cooperativeness, transitions, and meltdown management. Together those two books are my parenting bibles.
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Excellent book. Definitely five stars
Reviewed in Canada on November 16, 2016
Fast delivery. Excellent book. Definitely five stars
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